mercredi 28 août 2019

Some Helpful Advice on Coping With IVF

Expert Author Susan Leigh
Many young people automatically assume that their lives will go to plan and follow the direction that they have set out for themselves. They feel confident that will find that special someone, maybe marry, build a home and have the children that they have already mentally named.
Unfortunately children don't come to order and an increasing number of couples are turning to IVF in a bid to help them realise their dream of children and a happy family. Many of those people are desperate and having some helpful advice on coping with IVF would support them through the process.
Let's look at some helpful advice on coping with IVF:
- Guilt is often an important part of the initial discovery process. When a couple first try to get pregnant they may anticipate taking a month or two for it to happen. But it can take time for their bodies to readjust from having spent most of their sex lives trying not to get pregnant.
When it becomes apparent that pregnancy is not happening automatically each person tends to speculate about whether or not they are to blame. Trawling through their past, wondering about the implications of their childhood mumps, an abortion, a misspent youth drinking to excess or taking drugs can all add to the stress and make the situation more heartrending.
Hypnotherapy can help put the stress and guilt of past situations into context. The past is finished with. It forms a part of who you are today and that is the person your partner fell in love with. You can't change the past but you need to reconcile it, perhaps with hypnotherapy, and then move on.
- Pain can be a significant part of the process. Tests, injections, medication, examinations and procedures often involve discomfort and sometimes pain. Feeling unwell, having erratic mood swings, being strict about timed treatments can be wearing mentally, emotionally and physically. Some helpful advice on coping with IVF can include pain management techniques.
Self hypnosis is one such technique. It allows a day dreamy state to be entered into, perhaps where you relax and visit a comfortable place in nature, free from stress or tension. This place allows any cares to drift away, still being aware and able to hear instructions, but, for the rest of the time, enjoying being a little detached from it all.
Another pain management technique is to first practice turning the pain up a little, make it worse and discover that you have control. You realise that if you can turn it up you can also turn it down to manage pain. A third technique is to spread the pain through your body. A strong pain in your hand or leg can be significantly lessened by imagining it spreading through a larger area, like your whole body.
- Patience and remaining optimistic is an important part of the IVF process. Once the eggs are implanted waiting to hear the outcome can seem like a lifetime. Each part of the IVF cycle has its own timetable; being patient and keeping a positive mindset can be especially wearing. Try to recall those other experiences of going through a process and having to wait, hoping for a good result. Many people marry, are nervous when they awaken on their wedding day, hope that the day will go well, are optimistic that they have made the right longterm decision. Many of us take long courses, study for exams, prepare for interviews and hold our breath, trusting that we will get a positive result after all our efforts. Remembering that we did our best, that we had a go can provide some comfort.
- Responsibility is another important area. After the tests and treatments one person may be deemed responsible if the IVF cycle doesn't work. How will each person cope with the knowledge that one of them is to 'blame' for their childless state. Again hypnotherapy and relationship counselling can play an important part in supporting a couple through this difficult time of acceptance and readjustment, support them through communicating and coming to terms with their situation.
One person may feel resentful or desperate at not being able to have children, the other may feel responsible and frustrated, unable to do anything about it. At some point it becomes opportune to discuss other options that may be available. Are there other acceptable ways to bring a child into your lives, how does the relationship move forward from this, would you rather be with your partner and childless or is having your own child too strong a desire? And remember, if you decide to end the relationship there is no guarantee that a child would automatically be conceived in the future.